Tumblr (3.0; @iloveyoulessthanpunk)http://www.daisylola.com/<p>No, I think that’s a really silly, counter-productive mindset to have and a terrible, terrible habit to get into. </p> <p>For a start, all beauty is subjective and just because <em><strong>I </strong></em>may think someone is prettier than I am, doesn’t mean the next person who comes along is going to necessarily agree. </p> <p>Secondly, I don’t really see the point of determining a person’s value according to their aesthetic, I think that’s the wrong way to go through life. There are ALWAYS going to be literally millions of girls who are better looking than I am, but so what? They can’t apply their eyeliner like I do. They can’t write prose like I do. They can’t kiss, dance, converse, pass assignments, travel or love like I do <em>because they’re not me, they’re themselves. </em></p> <p>Comparing ourselves to other people is shit. <br/>My boyfriend once said to me, “I think you are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen,” and even though I think that is a load of CODSWALLOP, it doesn’t make that statement any less true if he believed it, you know?<br/>Similarly, I’ve DEFINITELY had a girl say to me that I was the ugliest person in the world before - I think that’s bollocks too but hey, maybe she believed it and that’s alright too.</p> <p>It’s all alright because every single one of us is so much more than what we look like, so fuck it, who cares. </p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/51056099873http://www.daisylola.com/post/51056099873Wed, 22 May 2013 17:12:27 +1000<p>I honestly don’t know if I can choose a Top 5, because I’ve read and adored hundreds of books. In saying that, whenever I get asked for favourites my brain always goes back to the same few authors/novels, so this might be a semi-accurate answer:</p> <ul><li><strong>The Catcher in the Rye - J.D. Salinger<br/> </strong>No other work will ever sum of my narcissistic teenage years better.</li> <li><strong>Invisible Monsters - Chuck Palahniuk<br/> </strong>As everyone knows, Chuck is my favourite author and this is my favourite work of his, both the original and the recent Remix. I think it’s chilling and haunting and brilliant, more so than any of his other novels, and I think the characters are just disgustingly brilliant.</li> <li><strong>Cat’s Cradle - Kurt Vonnegut<br/> </strong>I’m pretty sure I’ve reviewed this on my blog before.</li> <li><strong>The Lord of the Rings Trilogy - J.R.R. Tolkien <br/> </strong>I first read LoTR when I was very young, because it was one of my dad’s favourites and the films were due to come out in a couple of years so I guess my parents thought I should get on it. I have re-read them countless times since and there always ends up being something I completely overlooked or didn’t appreciate before, which I think is an amazing quality in any work of fiction.</li> <li><strong>Black Coffee Blues - Henry Rollins<br/> </strong>Arguably not a work of fiction, but I’m going to include it anyway because trying to choose a fifth was stressing me out and it’s very common knowledge that I admire Rollins’ work above all else.</li> </ul>http://www.daisylola.com/post/51055256657http://www.daisylola.com/post/51055256657Wed, 22 May 2013 16:48:00 +1000literaturefictionanswered<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/6b9eed44c14fd6ba6f7fe7a1137d47fa/tumblr_mn2xyqwa4v1ry5choo1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p><a href="http://driftdad69.tumblr.com/post/50884735321/check-out-this-amazing-book-daisylola-bought-for" class="tumblr_blog" target="_blank">driftdad69</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>Check out this amazing book @daisylola bought for me!</p></blockquote> <p></p> I am a great girlfriend.http://www.daisylola.com/post/51041810642http://www.daisylola.com/post/51041810642Wed, 22 May 2013 12:52:27 +1000<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/30c3c0225bc95f1e3e3e2d9add3c2eaa/tumblr_mn2tgxjJ6b1qa1bzko1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>Breakfast with my gorgeous boyfriend, book shopping, fruit eating and now I’m in the garden watching Twin Peaks and writing in my new Hobbit journal - life’s good xo</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50877785756http://www.daisylola.com/post/50877785756Mon, 20 May 2013 12:55:00 +1000personal<img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/4f8d953d17fbeaa6b5ef87b5c6822756/tumblr_mn0zofTPoI1qa1bzko1_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/28779c07e509be67593aa8d8cdf1f7a1/tumblr_mn0zofTPoI1qa1bzko2_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><p>Hello! I have been tagged in a thingy by the lovely epilepticfantasies on Tumblr & I didn’t notice it until now, so I’m answering the questions a bit belatedly, sorry love!!!</p> <ol><li><strong>Which fictional character are you most like?</strong><br/>I’m totally not sure! I always get grouped into the stupid fucking manic pixie dream girl trope but I don’t buy it at all. Feel free to tell me what you think haha.</li> <li><strong>What is your favourite movie?</strong><br/>Fight Club, duh ;)</li> <li><strong>What quilt cover do you have at the moment?</strong><br/>A really lovely black one with sequinned detailing that my mother got me for Christmas!</li> <li><strong>What picture can you see?</strong><br/>My own dumb face just above!</li> <li><strong>What book did you last read?</strong><br/>On the Road - Kerouac</li> <li><strong>What shoes do you wear most often?</strong><br/>Pair of grey Vans.</li> <li><strong>Do you like to cook?</strong><br/>I am TERRIBLE at it, but my boyfriend is pretty good and I often pretend to help, which I enjoy ;)</li> <li><strong>What song did you last listen to?</strong><br/>Knowing me, it was Soco Amaretto Lime.</li> <li><strong>What is your spirit animal?</strong><br/>A bitchy kitten.</li> <li><strong>Do you own any masks?</strong><br/>I don’t think so!</li> <li><strong>Have you won any awards?</strong><br/>Lots actually, but it’s a bit douchey to go into them haha.</li> </ol>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50782446209http://www.daisylola.com/post/50782446209Sun, 19 May 2013 13:14:00 +1000epilepticfantasiespersonal<img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/d682806bb817c5653b9b66bc22a5fb76/tumblr_mn0th8pjGB1ry5choo1_500.png"/><br/><br/><p><a href="http://driftdad69.tumblr.com/post/50773263661/broken-goat-skull-ink-pen-on-stock-ap-2013" class="tumblr_blog" target="_blank">driftdad69</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>Broken Goat Skull </p> <p>Ink pen on stock.</p> <p>AP - 2013</p> <p>(possibly for sale)</p></blockquote> YOU ARE INCREDIBLE BABY.http://www.daisylola.com/post/50774501328http://www.daisylola.com/post/50774501328Sun, 19 May 2013 11:19:28 +1000<p>Last night some guy sat me down and said, “The man who ends up marrying you will be quietly fascinated for the rest of his life. Fascinated and lucky, you are amazing.”</p> <p>I totally shrugged it off but fuck, right in the feelings bro. Right in the goddamn feelings :(</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50708620787http://www.daisylola.com/post/50708620787Sat, 18 May 2013 15:19:00 +1000personal<img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/80f2d42b1e8b4fcbda4ce61af9c8c9b0/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo8_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/e60a386059189de3846891dcaa89d8cd/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo1_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/7d819476719f054ce23bb9345cf37ec3/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo2_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/22829941ba654b4e37e2bf4555b50ddb/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo4_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/cc466d860a1233154f36cd92083d14dd/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo3_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/935e8f5c4590d1d20e24510a2cdb1c2a/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo5_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/f36f11f83444948a0cba62cac4ccfe90/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo6_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/87e5d909139bd25747046aa359a3f13c/tumblr_mm5184azdQ1qzl47yo7_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://chottohen.tumblr.com/post/50639303620/aloverthatsighs-this-body-of-work-is-an" target="_blank">chottohen</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><a class="tumblr_blog" href="http://aloverthatsighs.tumblr.com/post/49383845567/this-body-of-work-is-an-exploration-of-the-extent" target="_blank">aloverthatsighs</a>:</p> <blockquote> <p><span>This body of work is an exploration of the extent of cultural appropriation and encourages a discussion about it. I give the appropriator and the appropriated the opportunity to defend themselves and create a dialogue between them, while maintaining a neutral stance myself. I am not attacking those who appropriate, merely educating and creating awareness. I’m also exploring appropriation myself, and discovering the carying degrees of it within this visual conversation.</span></p> <p><br/><span>I’d like to make this a long term exploration, with a lot more participants as a form of generation-wide debate. If you’d like to be photographed to add your point of view, please do not hesitate to pop me a message here or an email at sanaahamid@yahoo.com and we could work something out!</span></p> </blockquote> <p>I still don’t know where my opinion is on this topic. I know a line should be drawn but I don’t know where… </p> </blockquote> <p>This is a fascinating idea but I’m fully not into the way OP has chosen to include rational, intelligent statements from the ‘appropriated’, whilst seemingly deliberately allowing only for short, closed-off quotes from the ‘appropriating’.</p> <p>I would like to see some variation in opinions and the way each side is presented, because I know many people of colour who do not believe cultural appropriation is a real or important thing; conversely I know many many privileged white girls who get so up in arms about it that they may explode. I know people who wear bindi, sari, etc, who would have really interesting things to say on why they choose to borrow from cultures other than their own, and I know members of those cultures who have nothing to say aside from “I don’t give a shit.”</p> <p>This project is ongoing and that’s great, but how about some diversity in perspective from both sides of the fence.</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50661874432http://www.daisylola.com/post/50661874432Sat, 18 May 2013 03:26:12 +1000cultural appropriation<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/cdd4a88a6bf6cda000edcacb27fc9288/tumblr_mmxku3u2k21qa1bzko6_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/2246409c5f8654ab0ec7edf998a0344b/tumblr_mmxku3u2k21qa1bzko2_500.png"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/5663873f1e993458cc1e2f5dc499cb3a/tumblr_mmxku3u2k21qa1bzko1_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/d477449161c8078ac46b11bec9e74c11/tumblr_mmxku3u2k21qa1bzko4_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/622889f15df3c7fe7f9f85eabcfb0a89/tumblr_mmxku3u2k21qa1bzko3_500.png"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/c0c54d19ef69d390b95b086fb04f3c14/tumblr_mmxku3u2k21qa1bzko5_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/ea197e0048c177138c4147e3eb37fb4b/tumblr_mmxku3u2k21qa1bzko7_500.jpg"/><br/> <br/><p>Some photos from when Andrew and I went to the zoo the other day xo</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50644408556http://www.daisylola.com/post/50644408556Fri, 17 May 2013 20:34:23 +1000personalaustralia zoozooelephantsandrew<p>You are allowed to disagree with people, even when those people are your partners - you don’t have to remain silent and complacent just because you are choosing to spend this portion of your life with them; nor do you need to feel like a shitty person simply because your partner is exhibiting shitty characteristics.</p> <p>Now that’s out of the way…</p> <p>For a start, your boyfriend is so full of shit I’m surprised you can stand to be around him due to the smell. He is allowed to disagree with promiscuous sex in terms of his own life, he is allowed to personally dislike it/the idea of it <em>however that is where his freedom of expression and opinion stops. </em>It is an incredibly narcissistic and convoluted notion that his opinion has to be the right one, and anyone who disagrees must automatically be making the ‘wrong’ choice. </p> <p>Explain to your boyfriend that he ain’t the centre of anyone’s universe except his own, and that his slut shaming doesn’t reflect poorly on anyone but himself. It’s outdated, it’s lame, and it’s embarrassing. I don’t need to tell you why this is, I’m guessing you already know.</p> <p>Never fear! Your boyfriend may be being a shithead now but it’s probably due to ignorance, rather than him being a terrible person. He probably had parents and teachers and peers who taught him that sex was something to barter with/use as ‘relationship currency’ rather than something to give freely to whomever an individual chooses (consent withstanding). Many people have peers and role models who teach them this & that’s okay, as long as they’re willing to learn - work on opening your boyfriend’s mind to the idea that sex isn’t as important or as terrifying as the media, church and traditions have cracked it up to be. Get him some literature on the matter or direct him to some blogs, sit down with him and have a calm chat about why his views might be really damaging and hurtful to a lot of people. Also explain to him why the sex lives of other people are none of his business.</p> <p>CONVERSELY, accept that your boyfriend is a fool and move on, do your thang, realise that some people are never going to agree with you & work on remembering the things that do make him a good guy. Your call. x</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50639483871http://www.daisylola.com/post/50639483871Fri, 17 May 2013 17:22:23 +1000<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/ffb63dcf52ed2b6e8d1ee1854088e541/tumblr_mmxl5yTF141qa1bzko2_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>The past week has been great - two trips to Byron, seeing old friends, drinking on rooftops with Annabelle, a zoo visit, so many coffee/vodka/wine dates with my Heni Peni discussing travel and the future, awesome music journalism related adventures and opportunities & as always falling asleep next to Andrew makes everything shine brighter.</p> <p>I still want/need a place to live but hey, I’ll get there, I have faith in that. xo</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50639053403http://www.daisylola.com/post/50639053403Fri, 17 May 2013 17:08:22 +1000personal<p>I have the most amazing people in my life and I&#8217;m thankful every day to know them. I know some fucking unpleasant shitheads but screw it, they may as well not exist. Blessed xo</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50498081213http://www.daisylola.com/post/50498081213Thu, 16 May 2013 00:51:12 +1000“How many wars will it take us to learn that only the dead return?”<br/><br/> - <em>Andrea Gibson</em>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50334057620http://www.daisylola.com/post/50334057620Mon, 13 May 2013 20:34:29 +1000quotes<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/0b443f4cd72b9e19cb8d0876859029b3/tumblr_mg0wpl4JRc1qa1bzko1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p><em>I will catch you when you fall, I will save you when you drown; I will be there when the water crashes around you, when it beats down on your shoulders and threatens to drag you under; I can’t swim too well but damn, I’ll swim to you.</em></p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50328474384http://www.daisylola.com/post/50328474384Mon, 13 May 2013 17:08:59 +1000<p><ol><li>Spontaneous trips down to Byron with one of my oldest friends to surprise our mothers on Mothers Day.</li> <li>Tequila shots.</li> <li>Getting lost in a book for the first time in a while.</li> <li>People saying nice things about Andrew&#8217;s art.</li> <li>Spending my days off watching documentaries and drinking copious amounts of tea.</li> <li>Stepping out of the car in Byron and noticing straight away how clean and fresh the air is.</li> </ol></p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50317964424http://www.daisylola.com/post/50317964424Mon, 13 May 2013 13:43:33 +1000365365 days of gratitudegratitudereasons life is worth it<img src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/6978c664e7169748bf0b9a16cf0ff4af/tumblr_mmmuvnSncN1rwojjao1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50310869545http://www.daisylola.com/post/50310869545Mon, 13 May 2013 12:11:31 +1000<img src="http://24.media.tumblr.com/64495b0e3362793b73ca4be6d98d9e5f/tumblr_mmprqeaXZq1qa1bzko1_500.jpg"/><br/><br/><p>@daisylola xoxo</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50309078238http://www.daisylola.com/post/50309078238Mon, 13 May 2013 11:49:26 +1000<p>Yep.</p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50251634085http://www.daisylola.com/post/50251634085Sun, 12 May 2013 22:01:48 +1000<p><em>&amp; at twenty, I decided to quit everything and become a performance poet.</em></p>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50247079865http://www.daisylola.com/post/50247079865Sun, 12 May 2013 20:41:25 +1000personal“Yesterday i carved your name into the surface of an ice cube<br/> then held it against my chest til it melted into my aching pores<br/> today i cried so hard the neighbors knocked on my door<br/> and asked if I wanted to borrow some sugar.”<br/><br/> - <em>Andrea Gibson</em>http://www.daisylola.com/post/50234156336http://www.daisylola.com/post/50234156336Sun, 12 May 2013 17:08:52 +1000quotes