Breakfast with my gorgeous boyfriend, book shopping, fruit eating and now I’m in the garden watching Twin Peaks and writing in my new Hobbit journal - life’s good xo
Hello! I have been tagged in a thingy by the lovely epilepticfantasies on Tumblr & I didn’t notice it until now, so I’m answering the questions a bit belatedly, sorry love!!!
- Which fictional character are you most like?
I’m totally not sure! I always get grouped into the stupid fucking manic pixie dream girl trope but I don’t buy it at all. Feel free to tell me what you think haha.
- What is your favourite movie?
Fight Club, duh ;)
- What quilt cover do you have at the moment?
A really lovely black one with sequinned detailing that my mother got me for Christmas!
- What picture can you see?
My own dumb face just above!
- What book did you last read?
On the Road - Kerouac
- What shoes do you wear most often?
Pair of grey Vans.
- Do you like to cook?
I am TERRIBLE at it, but my boyfriend is pretty good and I often pretend to help, which I enjoy ;)
- What song did you last listen to?
Knowing me, it was Soco Amaretto Lime.
- What is your spirit animal?
A bitchy kitten.
- Do you own any masks?
I don’t think so!
- Have you won any awards?
Lots actually, but it’s a bit douchey to go into them haha.
YOU ARE INCREDIBLE BABY.
Broken Goat Skull
Ink pen on stock.
AP - 2013
(possibly for sale)
Last night some guy sat me down and said, “The man who ends up marrying you will be quietly fascinated for the rest of his life. Fascinated and lucky, you are amazing.”
I totally shrugged it off but fuck, right in the feelings bro. Right in the goddamn feelings :(
This body of work is an exploration of the extent of cultural appropriation and encourages a discussion about it. I give the appropriator and the appropriated the opportunity to defend themselves and create a dialogue between them, while maintaining a neutral stance myself. I am not attacking those who appropriate, merely educating and creating awareness. I’m also exploring appropriation myself, and discovering the carying degrees of it within this visual conversation.
I’d like to make this a long term exploration, with a lot more participants as a form of generation-wide debate. If you’d like to be photographed to add your point of view, please do not hesitate to pop me a message here or an email at email@example.com and we could work something out!
I still don’t know where my opinion is on this topic. I know a line should be drawn but I don’t know where…
This is a fascinating idea but I’m fully not into the way OP has chosen to include rational, intelligent statements from the ‘appropriated’, whilst seemingly deliberately allowing only for short, closed-off quotes from the ‘appropriating’.
I would like to see some variation in opinions and the way each side is presented, because I know many people of colour who do not believe cultural appropriation is a real or important thing; conversely I know many many privileged white girls who get so up in arms about it that they may explode. I know people who wear bindi, sari, etc, who would have really interesting things to say on why they choose to borrow from cultures other than their own, and I know members of those cultures who have nothing to say aside from “I don’t give a shit.”
This project is ongoing and that’s great, but how about some diversity in perspective from both sides of the fence.
pineapple-espress asked: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years and I've been beginning to question his character and views on things. We always have arguments when it comes to sexual freedom.He believes that anyone(single) who has sex with multiple partners or with people who one isn't dating means someone lives a loose and dirty/unhealthy lifestyle. He is an avid slut shamer and looks down on men & women saying that loose sex is not healthy and it's an addiction. What can I do when I disagree?
You are allowed to disagree with people, even when those people are your partners - you don’t have to remain silent and complacent just because you are choosing to spend this portion of your life with them; nor do you need to feel like a shitty person simply because your partner is exhibiting shitty characteristics.
Now that’s out of the way…
For a start, your boyfriend is so full of shit I’m surprised you can stand to be around him due to the smell. He is allowed to disagree with promiscuous sex in terms of his own life, he is allowed to personally dislike it/the idea of it however that is where his freedom of expression and opinion stops. It is an incredibly narcissistic and convoluted notion that his opinion has to be the right one, and anyone who disagrees must automatically be making the ‘wrong’ choice.
Explain to your boyfriend that he ain’t the centre of anyone’s universe except his own, and that his slut shaming doesn’t reflect poorly on anyone but himself. It’s outdated, it’s lame, and it’s embarrassing. I don’t need to tell you why this is, I’m guessing you already know.
Never fear! Your boyfriend may be being a shithead now but it’s probably due to ignorance, rather than him being a terrible person. He probably had parents and teachers and peers who taught him that sex was something to barter with/use as ‘relationship currency’ rather than something to give freely to whomever an individual chooses (consent withstanding). Many people have peers and role models who teach them this & that’s okay, as long as they’re willing to learn - work on opening your boyfriend’s mind to the idea that sex isn’t as important or as terrifying as the media, church and traditions have cracked it up to be. Get him some literature on the matter or direct him to some blogs, sit down with him and have a calm chat about why his views might be really damaging and hurtful to a lot of people. Also explain to him why the sex lives of other people are none of his business.
CONVERSELY, accept that your boyfriend is a fool and move on, do your thang, realise that some people are never going to agree with you & work on remembering the things that do make him a good guy. Your call. x
The past week has been great - two trips to Byron, seeing old friends, drinking on rooftops with Annabelle, a zoo visit, so many coffee/vodka/wine dates with my Heni Peni discussing travel and the future, awesome music journalism related adventures and opportunities & as always falling asleep next to Andrew makes everything shine brighter.
I still want/need a place to live but hey, I’ll get there, I have faith in that. xo
I have the most amazing people in my life and I’m thankful every day to know them. I know some fucking unpleasant shitheads but screw it, they may as well not exist. Blessed xo
How many wars will it take us to learn that only the dead return?
I will catch you when you fall, I will save you when you drown; I will be there when the water crashes around you, when it beats down on your shoulders and threatens to drag you under; I can’t swim too well but damn, I’ll swim to you.
- Spontaneous trips down to Byron with one of my oldest friends to surprise our mothers on Mothers Day.
- Tequila shots.
- Getting lost in a book for the first time in a while.
- People saying nice things about Andrew’s art.
- Spending my days off watching documentaries and drinking copious amounts of tea.
- Stepping out of the car in Byron and noticing straight away how clean and fresh the air is.