I was recently checking my tag on Tumblr (yes, I do that, shoot me) when I came across a post entitled “An open letter to Daisy Lola”, which for various reasons criticised my views on equality.
This letter was written by some bloke, who apparently believes that if a woman chooses to get her kit off in any circumstance other than the marital bed - I am being inflammatory here, once again, shoot me - then she has no respect for herself & clearly could not possibly hold a relevant opinion within this world.
And I quote:
"Through out your videos, you have allowed yourself to be viewed in revealing clothing and your underwear. This does not leave a positive you on females in society at all which firstly makes me question your genuine passion for equality and feminism in society."
(Assuming he means “a positive view” rather than “a positive you”, here.)
I’m sorry, being revealed in my underwear somehow casts a negative light on females? God forbid a woman wear… Underwear! It might reveal her… Private parts! Gross! Slutty! Wrong!
But why are these parts viewed as inherently ‘private’? Why should we not get them out? Why is being seen in a bikini completely okay, but in our underwear is somehow shameful or shocking despite the two revealing the exact same amount of skin?
Because of rape culture my friend, that’s why.
When you teach us to be ashamed of our bodies, you teach us that skin is something that’s going to rile people up; skin is something we need to cover, because it gets men going, it reduces us to mere objects and blah blah blah - maybe you think you’re teaching us this to protect us, when in reality what you are doing is grooming us for the idea that we have something to fear from our own fucking skin.
Showing my skin means I’m not supporting equality?
Tell that to the fact that men can walk around topless and it is perfectly legal and acceptable, yet simply because women have more fat in the exact same area, our breasts are considered something we must hide away until ‘the right man’ comes along and ‘respects us’ enough to take our fucking shirts off.
Tell that to ‘boner’ jokes in the media, in television, in comedy and in our everyday lives; tell that to the fact that a man having an erection, whilst somewhat comical is perfectly fucking okay whereas a woman wearing tight clothing that shows the shape of her vulva (AKA ‘camel toe’) is seen as disgusting and completely okay to be mocked.
Tell that to advertising that uses sex, sexuality, MY SEXUALITY to sell you cheap perfume, animal tested cosmetics and tacky fucking men’s deodorant, yet perpetuates a culture where if I choose to walk around in a midriff top and ripped up denim shorts, I am somehow a “slut”.
Let’s not even get started on girls who post nudes on the internet. Yuck, what attention whores, what trashy, trashy women who clearly do not get enough attention in their own lives and need the validation of ‘likes’ on the internet. Yeah how about fucking no, mate.
Whether or not I make videos in my underwear is none of your concern, mate. You can watch and like my tits, or you can watch and dislike my tits. You can watch and listen to what I’m actually saying, or you can watch and focus on the fact that you can see two mounds of fat above a cheap black lacy bra. I didn’t make the video for you, I sure as shit didn’t take these photos for you and whether or not they exist has nothing to do with equality whatsoever.
Smart girls can showcase their sexuality on the internet.
Stupid girls can showcase their sexuality on the internet.
Smart boys can showcase their sexuality on the internet.
Stupid boys can showcase their sexuality on the internet.
Smart and stupid people of every possible gender and sex orientation under the sun can showcase their sexuality on the internet.
And, terrifyingly enough, sometimes the human body in minimal/no clothing has nothing to do with sexuality at all. Crazy thought, no?
I am a twenty year old woman putting myself through university, living independently and trying to get by in the world. I have good grades, two jobs, a hell of a lot of friends I need to make more time for, not to mention a boyfriend and several jobs/commitments that don’t pay me at all. I have a book collection and a lingerie collection. I have videos where I am fully clothed, and videos where you can see my panty lines.
None. Of. The. Above. Have. Anything. To. Do. With. My. (Or. Anyone. Else’s.) Stance. On. Equality.
So here, have some fabulous pictures of me in minimal clothing. You can see my thighs, my tits, my butt, and even the outline of my cunt. None of that means I am offering my body to you in any way - my body is mine to do exactly what I want with, whenever I goddamn want to do it.
Next time you wanna comment on that, come straight to the fucking source, boy. Equality means I can kick your ass too.
This post is still a good post.